Coping with Grief and Loss: Say My Name

Don’t be afraid to mention his or her name.

Share memories, feelings and sorrow. Here are three hints to start the conversation

1. Let those around you know that it’s okay to discuss your loved one and that you welcome it, if that is the case. As you start more conversations, others will know that it is safe to talk freely, and they may be more at ease going forward. Some people may fear that talking about the deceased will upset you. Others may want to talk, but don’t know what to say to start the conversation. And some are just afraid of their own feelings and fears, which become triggered, and are likely not the correct people to support you.
2. Initiate the discussion using the name of your loved one. At first, it may seem painful or uncomfortable. However, the sorrow may be lessened the more you talk. Notice your feelings and adjust your level of sharing to what feels right for you. If talking helps, then continue to do so. Saying your loved one’s name can put you and others at ease.
3. Share your concerns to allow people around you to help and comfort you. When you express your emotions, this helps others understand a little better about what is happening for you. Thus, they are more able to support you. When you are silent, others typically will not take the first step to help because they fear upsetting you. Let them know that your loss is on your mind almost all the time anyhow, so talking does help. Explain that they are not bringing up something that you are not already thinking about.

Talking about your loss and your feelings is good medicine for working through your many emotions and feelings surrounding your loss. Sharing provides an outlet for releasing your thoughts and a way to make sense of where you are. Another person can serve as a good sounding board for you. 

Give yourself and others the opportunity to speak and share. As you participate in more conversations with others, you’ll realize all the beautiful memories you have captured with your loved one. Plus, you’ll hear memories, stories, and perspectives from others you may not have known.

Discussion is one of the many ways to mourn your loss, but remember to do what is best for you.

How can you let others know that you want to talk about your beloved person?

Chelsea

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• How to uncover hidden challenges that may be standing in the way or sabotaging your ability to move through grief.
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• How to create a clear vision of where you’d like to be to achieve more peace and well being – sooner and quicker than going it alone.

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Henry Scott Holland (1775-1864)