You aren’t required to be the same person you were in the past, or even in this moment.
Instead, use constructive beliefs to support your life and heal grief. The words you use and the stories you tell yourself have power.
They will determine if you will heal and find joy in life. Choose words to bring solace instead of suffering.
Affirm, imagine, and experience the positive emotions and outcomes you desire in the future. You can gradually influence your beliefs, and in turn, your reality.
You don’t have to listen to your thoughts or allow negative emotions to control you. Your task is to uncover faulty beliefs, evaluate them, and choose how to respond to heal grief.
Use this simple practice to transform the false beliefs that don’t serve you:
NOTICE: To manage your thoughts, notice what you are telling yourself throughout the day.
Pay attention to any negative thoughts or victimizing beliefs, such as:
I can’t get better.
Nobody cares about me.
I can’t change anything about this situation.
I have no freedom.
CHALLENGE: Use these questions to challenge your thoughts and beliefs:
What am I telling myself right now? (I will never be better.)
Do you absolutely know this thought is 100% true? (No.)
How do you act or feel when you believe this thought? (Hopeless and sad.)
If you couldn’t ever feel this thought again, how would you feel? (Hopeful and happy.)
What is the exact opposite of this thought? (I am getting better.)
TURN AROUND: When you have a negative thought or false belief, turn it around immediately.
Challenge the narrative in your mind and choose thoughts that support healing and feeling better.
Your mind believes what you tell it, so fill it encouragement, hope, and renewal.
To build on this 3-step practice, many times throughout your day, ask yourself this one essential question:
Is this thought 100% true?
Much love to you,
Chelsea
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